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I’m a Big Bouncing Ball of Nice
~ You taught me to be nice, so nice that now I am so full of niceness, I have no sense of right and wrong, no outrage, no passion. ~ Garrison Keillor
Behold, my conundrum. I’m the “nice” guy. Even typing this is going against every fabric and cell in my body. I’m supposed to be nice, I’m not supposed to complain about being a nice guy. It’s a good thing to be a nice guy. Well, is it?
Firstly, let’s make a distinction here. There’s no white/black – if you’re not “nice” doesn’t mean you’re an “asshole” and if you’re an “asshole” doesn’t mean you’re not “nice” either. Does that make sense? It probably doesn’t.
Now, let’s make another distinction, I’m not going to say “I don’t want to be nice anymore” – no – I want to be nice but I want to keep my integrity too.
It’s like that whole thing, “nice guys finish last” – I remember that line cause of the movie The Mask when one of the characters uses it to describe Jim Carrey’s character. I never really understood what it meant until lately. Nice guys do finish last.
I’m not talking only in terms of relationships either but in terms of what goes on in life. See what I’m doing here, with this post, that I’m writing, RIGHT NOW. Can you sense that I’m trying to say “I don’t want to be nice” anymore while still trying to be “nice?”
Being “nice” is inauthentic. It’s not who you are. “Niceness” hints to someone seeking validation. So, when I’m “nice” I’m looking to be validated, so I can rationalize why I act the way I act. “It’s okay if I deviate from my plans, I’m doing some nice!” Well, it doesn’t work that way. If everyone was “nice” nothing would ever happen on this planet. There’d be no progress, no innovation. If you’re not stepping on toes, you’re really not doing anything. So, henceforth I proclaim death to my “niceness.”
Now now now now now wait. I can’t NOT be nice to people. I LOVE people. I really really do. What does it mean now, when I say I won’t be nice? Does it mean I’ll make fun of people, will it mean I’ll steal your candy, will it mean I’ll post naked pictures of you on the internet? NO NO NO. See, when we say a word like “nice” there’s all these distinctions that come with it, all the presupposed factors. Being “nice” is neither good nor bad just as much as being “not nice” is neither good or bad. “Nice” is an identity we give ourselves, something that can help us deal with the actions we make everyday. “Hey, I’m a “nice” guy so I won’t tell the waiter that they gave me the wrong order.” “I’m doing this work for free but that’s okay, cause they’ll think I’m ‘nice’”. “Hey, I won’t go talk to that girl over there, that way she’ll know FOR SURE I’m a ‘nice’ guy cause I didn’t go bug her.” And so on and so on. Get my drift?
When we’re nice, we lose our sense of self. We lose our grip with reality. We become inauthentic with ourselves. Worst of all, we lose integrity. “Niceness” comes from not wanting to feel uncomfortable, from not wanting to get out of a comfort zone, from not doing something cause it scares you. Everyone knows that extraordinary people will do things, even if it hurts them. There’s an ego at play here that we confuse as ourselves. I know, cause there’s so many things I’m afraid to do and I don’t jump in cause I let this “nice guy” get the best of me.
So, if I’m not “nice” then who/what will I be. Well, I’ll be loving, I’ll be pleasant, I’ll have a sense of humor, make people laugh, I’ll be humble, and I’ll have a feeling of lightness about me. To go with this, I’ll be courageous, I’ll be passionate, and I’ll be a man of my word. When you become a man of your word you know, right then, that there’s times where you can’t be nice. Where you MUST make the call. Where you must admit your defeat. Where you must admit your inauthenticity and your lies.
So, behold, the birth of a new me – the possibility of love, courage, and passion.
Who are you going to be?
Read MoreZimpamation 1 – The Pac-Mannery
Here’s something I’ve been meaning to start on this blog – Zimp Animations, or, Zimpamations!! Muhaha! Isn’t that awesome? What is a Zimpamation, you ask? Well, it’s basically an animation of something that popped into my head. In essence, it’s an animated drawing or Zrawing (ok, I’ll stop with the Zs). I want to produce hella short Zimpamations 1 – 2 a week for the fun of it (and also to start refining my animation skills). So, behold the first ever Zimpamation:
The Pac-Mannery
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